Here
are questions about me and my services that I am often asked:
About me...
What happens in a session?
I think I want to try Somatic Sex and Intimacy
Coaching but I'm not sure?
How long are sessions and how many sessions will
I need?
What are your fees and what forms of payment do you accept?
What days and times are you available?
How do I arrange a session?
Where is your studio located?
Is there parking near your studio?
What is your studio like?
Do you allow your clients to touch you?
Do you work in the nude?
Do you offer "extra" services not advertised
on this website?
What safety and hygienic measures do you take?
Are you comfortable working with people who
have "alternative" expressions of sexuality and gender?
What if I have other questions?
About Me...
I have been a bodyworker for many
years with training in Lomi Lomi and Thai massage. In recent years
the focus of my bodywork has moved into the realm of tantra, healing,
education, and coaching in the area of human sexuality. My focus
is still massage but I use touch as a way to teach people how to
have more fulfilling sex and intimacy. This is embodied or somatic
education.
My
tantra (sacred sexuality) training began with Maryse
Côté. I have assisted Maryse in creating workshops
for her students and I have facilitated many of my own classes.
I have completed the Certified
Sexological Bodywork program, at The
Institute For Advanced Study in Human Sexuality in San Francisco
lead by Dr. Joseph Kramer, a world leader of somatic sex education
and the founder of the The Body Electric School. Dr. Kramer's website
is www.eroticmassage.com.
I'm continuously upgrading my expertise
in sexuality and healing therapies. My most recent training has
been in somatic psychotherapy with Hilary
Mackey. At this time I'm especially interested at this time
in the work of Staci Haines in generative
somatics and their role in sexual healing.
I have an unusual and diverse personal
history. In 1990 I graduated from the Royal Military College with
an Honours Degree in Civil Engineering and spent several years as
an officer in the Military Engineers. Leaving that phase of my life
I became an extreme whitewater kayaker and river raft guide, then
a professional photographer and then an environmentalist, before
eventually settling into my role as a bodyworker. I've been to the
school of life.
My healing gifts arise out of a great
amount of my own "work" done via tantric practice, meditation
(Vipassana), therapy (EMDR), and embodiment practices like ecstatic
dance and contact improvisation dance. My own "work" is
always ongoing. I recognize that I can only guide my clients as
far as I have gone myself.
I have exceptionally clear boundaries
and communication skills in order to create a safe space for my
clients to go deep into their process. My gentle sense of humour
(believe me around sex you have to have one) puts people at ease.
I am in a committed and passionate
love relationship with my Beloved Jessica. She whole-heartedly supports
me in my work. By far, this relationship has been my greatest teacher
about sex and intimacy.
I am inspired by my work because
it greatly improves quality of life. I believe that being empowered
in sexuality is the foundation for well being in all areas of life.
My hope is that my work helps create
a world where everyone can celebrate the inherent sensuality of
their body and enjoy a healthy expression of their sexuality.
What happens in a session?
Please see the descriptions of my various services.
Somatic Sex and Intimacy
Coaching
Tantric Massage
Relaxation Massage
I think
I want to try Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coaching but I'm not sure?
I realize that the idea of Somatic Sex and Intimacy
Coaching may seem unusual to you and you may want to explore it
more before committing.To make it easier for you, I offer
a no charge, 45 minute, intro session. In this session
we just talk. You can ask me any questions you wish and we can see
if we are a good fit for each other. If we mutually decide to work
together I'll require a minimum commitment from you of at least
three sessions of 1-3 hours. Depending on your needs, more sessions
may be required.
How long are
sessions and how many sessions will I need?
Somatic Sex and
Intimacy Coaching - The first intro session is 45 minutes.
Following sessions are 1-3 hours long. The minimum number of sessions
is typically 3. How many you need depends on your specific goals.
Tantric Massage - The first time you
come to see me, the minimum length session is 2 hours. Longer sessions
of up to 3 hours are more powerful. After you've seen me once, I
will do 1.5 hour tantric massage sessions with you. The number of
sessions you require depends on your needs. I ask for no commitment
for a certain number of sessions but regular sessions are very powerful.
Relaxation massage - The minimum length
session is 1 hour but I'll do up to 3 hour sessions. I ask for no
commitment for a certain number of sessions.
What are your fees and what forms
of payment do you accept?
For Somatic Sex Coaching and Tantric Massage I
charge $100/hr when working in my studio. Prices vary for couples
sessions where I am working with another bodyworker. Please call
me. For outcalls there is an additional fee of at least $60 but
it could be more if you are far from where I live. For new clients
I accept cash or if you wish to pay in advance you can do so with
a credit card via an online service called paypal. For repeat clients
I do accept cheques.
What days and
times are you available?
I generally schedule sessions between 10am and
8pm usually on weekdays but sometimes on weekends. I can possibly
work outside those hours if the session is scheduled well in advance.
How do I
arrange a session?
Call me at 604-618-3381 or email me at info@massagebyki.com.
You may get my voicemail. I promptly return phone calls.
Where is
your studio located?
My studio is in Kitsilano on West Broadway near
Alma. This a very safe neighbourhood. Its a 10-15 minute drive from
downtown Vancouver or a $15 cab ride. Several city buses stop nearby
as well. I'll give you my exact address when you arrange a session.
Is there
parking near your studio?
There is ample free parking near my studio. It's never a problem.
What is your
studio setup like?
My studio is cozy, warm and private. There is
a shower available. I work on a professional massage table with
a face rest and soft flannel sheets. I use a very high quality,
light, non-scented, vegetable-based massage oil.

What safety
and hygienic measures do you take?
My clients and my own health and safety is of
paramount importance to me. I do touch. When I touch the genitals,
anus or nearby areas, I always wear gloves. I use nitrile or vinyl
gloves because they don't break down with massage oil. (Note: My
apologies, my photos don't show me wearing gloves. I'm in the process
of getting new photos.)
Do you work
in the nude?
No. In the complicated world of sexuality, my
being clothed helps maintains a safe space and clear boundaries
with my clients. At times I do work without a shirt because I keep
my studio warm and its helps me to be comfortable.
Do you allow
your clients to touch you?
Not in tantic masssage. The touch is just one-way.
I have found two-way touch detracts from my clients going deep into
their own experience. For many people it can be an important lesson
to let go of having to do anything and just receive.
In Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coaching there may
be some touch towards me if I am specifically teaching you touch
skills. We would verbally discuss and agree upon very clear boundaries
and learning objectives before touch happened.
Do you offer
"extra" services not advertised on this website?
No. I absolutely do not have sex with my clients.
Are you
comfortable working with people who have "alternative"
expressions of sexuality and gender?
I'm very comfortable working with anyone regardless
of their gender or flavour of sexual expression. My work is simply
to love and assist my clients, however they choose to identify and
express themselves.
What if I have
other questions?
I suggest carefully reading through the descriptions
of my services and then, if your question
has not been answered, just call me at 604-618-3381. I'm used to
people asking me all kinds of questions. So don't be shy. Just ask
away. I encourage honesty and I promise to listen and answer respectfully.
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