About Ki Bournes...
What happens in a session?
I think I want to try Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy but I'm not sure?
How long are sessions and how many sessions will I need?
What are your fees and what forms of payment do you accept?
What days and times are you available?
How do I arrange a session?
Where is your studio located?
Is there parking near your studio?
What is your studio like?
Do you allow your clients to touch you?
Do you work in the nude?
Do you offer "extra" services not advertised on this website?
What safety and hygienic measures do you take?
Are you comfortable working with people who have "alternative" expressions of sexuality and gender?
What if I have other questions?

About Ki Bournes...

I see myself in the roles of teacher and healer. Conscious touch, clear boundaries and communication are the cornerstones of my work which has evolved out of my study and practice of several meditation, bodywork and psychoptherapy modalities.

Above and beyond all the techniques I use the most import piece of my work, which makes everything else possible, is loving-kindness and mindfullness, skills which I developed and continue to expand with Vipassana (Buddhist) meditation.

I'm trained in Lomi Lomi and Thai massage techniques and have many years of experience. I have great touch skills.

My tantra (sacred sexuality) training began with Maryse Côté and has continued with my own study. I have assisted Maryse in many tantra trainings and I have facilitated many of my own classes.

I completed the Certified Sexological Bodywork program, at The Institute For Advanced Study in Human Sexuality in San Francisco lead by Dr. Joseph Kramer, a world leader of somatic sex education and the founder of the The Body Electric School.

Another one of my honoured teachers is Dr. Betty Martin. Betty is a master in her understanding and teaching about safety, boundaries and agreements when engaging in sensual touch.

I'm continuously expanding my knowledge and expertise in healing practices. Most recently I have recognized the need to be able to help my clients on a deep emotional level through the skills employed in psychotherapy. I have trained in somatic psychotherapy with Hilary Mackey. I am also currently enrolled as a student of the Hakomi method of body-centred psychotherapy.

All of these practices inform my work but ultimately what happens in a session is guided by the unique needs of my client and what arises in the moment. I respond to the moment and work intuitively.

By far my greatest lessons about love, sex and intimacy have come from being in relationship with my long-time and beloved partner Jessica. It's a never ending opportunity for growth and learning. Currently we are learning about being new parents. Our son was born in August 2009.

I have had many different life experiences. I have an Honours Degree in Civil Engineering from the Royal Military College of Canada and several years experince as an officer in the Military Engineers. I've also been a river raft guide, whitewater kayaker, photographer and an environmental activist before eventually choosing healing and education as my life's purpose.

I recognize that I can only guide my clients as far as I have gone myself. My work on myself is always ongoing through therapy, meditation, tantric practice and personal growth workshops.

I am passionate about my work because it vastly improves the quality of life of my clients. I believe that being empowered in one's sexuality is the key for well being in all areas of one's life.

My hope is that my work helps create a world where everyone can enjoy a healthy expression of their sexuality free of fear, guilt and shame and that this helps to foster a more peaceful and loving world.

What happens in a session?

Please see the descriptions of my various services.

Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy

Tantric Massage

Relaxation Massage

I think I want to try Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy but I'm not sure?

I realize that the idea of Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy may seem unusual to you and you may want to explore it more before committing.To make it easier for you, I offer a no charge, 45 minute, intro session. In this session we just talk. You can ask me any questions you wish and we can see if we are a good fit for each other. Based on your needs and resources we will make a plan from there.

How long are sessions and how many sessions will I need?

Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy - If you wish we can do a free intro session of 45 minutes or we can jump right into a longer session. Sessions are 1-3 hours long, but I prefer 1.5 hours or longer. How many sessions you do depends on your specific learning and healing goals and your resources. I have many clients who see me on an ongoing regular basis.

Tantric Massage - The first time you come to see me, the minimum length session is 2 hours. Longer sessions of up to 3 hours are more powerful. After you've seen me once, I will do 1.5 hour tantric massage sessions with you. The number of sessions you require depends on your needs. I ask for no commitment for a certain number of sessions but regular sessions are very powerful.

Relaxation massage - The minimum length session is 1 hour but I'll do up to 3 hour sessions. I ask for no commitment for a certain number of sessions.

What are your fees and what forms of payment do you accept?

I use a "sliding scale" designed to accommodate people of different income levels. I want to make my services as accessible while still valuing my work.

If you are a student, senior or working person just getting by then you can pay the low end of the scale. If you are wealthy, or a professional charging $120/hour or more for your services, then please pay the high end of the scale. If you are somewhere in between then please contribute at the middle range of the scale.

For Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy my sliding scale is $60/hour - $120/hour plus GST (a 5% federal tax).

For Relaxation Massage my sliding scale is $60/hour - $100/hour plus GST.

For Tantric Massage my sliding scale is $80/hour - $120/hour plus GST.

For couples sessions where I am working with another bodyworker, the fee in $225/hour plus GST.

All of the above prices are for incalls to my studio. For outcalls there is an additional fee of $60 plus GST to the downtown area of Vancouver for destinations farther away please contact me for rates.

For new clients I accept cash or if you wish to pay in advance you can do so with a credit card via an online service called Paypal. For repeat clients I also accept cheques.

What days and times are you available?

I generally schedule sessions between 10am and 8pm usually on weekdays but sometimes on weekends. I can possibly work outside those hours if the session is scheduled well in advance.

It's best to arrange your session well in advance but short notice sessions are sometimes available.

How do I arrange a session?

Call me at 604-618-3381 or email me at info@massagebyki.com. You may get my voicemail. I return phone calls and emails as soon as possible.

Where is your studio located?

My studio is in the South Granville area near west 12th and Granville. This is a very safe neighbourhood. It's a 5-10 minute drive from downtown Vancouver or a $15 cab ride. Many city buses stop nearby as well. I'll give you directions upon arranging a session.

Is there parking near your studio?

There is ample free parking near my studio. It's never a problem.

What is your studio setup like?

My studio is cozy, warm and private. There is a shower available. I work on a professional massage table with a face rest and soft flannel sheets. I use a organic coconut oil.

What safety and hygienic measures do you take?

My clients and my own health and safety is of paramount importance to me. I do touch. When I touch the genitals, anus or nearby areas, I always wear gloves. I use nitrile or vinyl gloves because they don't break down with massage oil. (Note: My apologies, my photos don't show me wearing gloves. I'm in the process of getting new photos.)

Do you work in the nude?

No. In the complicated world of sexuality, my being clothed helps maintains a safe space and clear boundaries with my clients. At times I do work without a shirt because its helps me to be comfortable when doing massage.

Do you allow your clients to touch you?

Not in Tantic Masssage. The touch is just one-way. I have found two-way touch detracts from my clients going deep into their own experience. For many people it can be an important lesson to let go of having to do anything, especially please someone else, and just receive.

In Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy sessions there may be touch from you to me. Before touching we would talk about the learning or healing objectives that we were seeking with that touch.

Do you offer "extra" services not advertised on this website?

No. I absolutely do not engage in any form of sexual intercourse or any kissing.

Are you comfortable working with people who have alternative expressions of sexuality and gender?

I'm very comfortable working with anyone regardless of their gender or flavour of sexual expression. My work is simply to love and assist my clients, however they choose to identify and express themselves.

What if I have other questions?

I suggest carefully reading through the descriptions of my services and then, if your question has not been answered, just call me at 604-618-3381. I'm used to people asking me all kinds of questions. Don't be shy, just ask away. I encourage honesty and I promise to listen without judgement and answer respectfully.