Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy

Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy will help you get all the fulfilling, nourishing and passionate sex and intimacy that you desire.

I have helped many people in these areas:

• Establishing your Sexual Boundaries – or how to say “No” and “Yes”
• Exploring what kind of touch feels good to you
• Discovering your authentic erotic desires and being ok with them
• Feeling comfortable to talk about sex, sexual problems and sexual desires
• Communicating your desires clearly so that you can receive them
• Healing from sexual shame, wounding and abuse
• Having your first orgasm (women)
• Making orgasm easier to achieve
• Improving the quality of your orgasms – having multiple and full-body orgasms
• Knowing your g-spot and having g-spot orgasms (women)
• Learning to ejaculate (women)
• Knowing your prostate and having prostate orgasms (men)
• Exploring anal pleasure
• Overcoming erectile dysfunction (men)
• Increasing the strength of your erection (men)
• Developing ejaculation control (men)
• Becoming a confident and extraordinary lover
• Loving the way you look and getting over body image issues
• Conquering porn addiction
• Learning how to sensually and erotically massage a man or a woman
• Accessing ecstatic states of consciousness through sexual energy
• Using sexual energy for personal transformation
• Renewing the passion and intimacy with your partner
• Becoming an empowered and successful sex educator and coach yourself

So that’s the “what” of what I offer. Some explanation about the “how” is in order.

Mostly I work with individuals and couples in private in person. I have a studio in Vancouver. I also do work via phone for people who can’t come to see me or would prefer not to.

I always start by listening and asking questions so that you know and I know what your goals are. Talk is important. But talk can only take you so far. Sex is ultimately in the body. Great sex is embodied sex!

My education and therapy emphasizes embodied, experiential, learning through physical practices. At times that learing might look like a yoga class, or a personal growth workshop exercise, or learning how to play a musical instrument.

I might teach you these practices in person or I might use online video resources, like the New School of Erotic Touch. When you practice the practices you’ll learn new things and get the results you want - and probably even more than you could imagine.

Here’s an example. Perhaps your goal is to have better ejaculation control so you can make love longer to your partner.

We would first talk about your situation in detail. When does premature ejaculation happen? Under what circumstances? What are the beliefs about yourself? What are the emotions involved and how are they felt in your body? Talking about details and getting reflection from an expert often leads to new insights and perspectives. Often sharing about a sensitive issue to someone who is supportive and non-judgmental can be a huge relief. But, like I said, talk can only take you so far.

I’d definitely teach you some practices - in this case breathing, relaxation techniques, awareness and how to strengthen and use your sexual muscles. I would also coach you in communicating with your partner. You'd practice in my office and at home on your own. We'd discuss what you learned from your practice. I'd support you in continuing your practice and refining it. Over time you'd get results.

Another way I offer embodied learning is through touch. Here's an example:

You are a woman who'd like to know what feels good when your vulva is being touched. Maybe you’ve never had someone touch your vulva in a way that felt good, or maybe if they did they didn’t tell you what they were doing. Unfortunately lots of women have this problem.

So again we'd start with talk. We’d be very clear on boundaries, how we'd communicate during the touch session and what your learning objectives were. There may be some emotional stuff that needs to be addressed before any touching happened at all. Your feeling safe, comfortable and in control are always my prime concern.

When you were ready we'd move into a touch exploration of your vulva - me touching your vulva and telling you what I was doing. Or maybe it would be you touching yourself while looking in a mirror while I verbally guided you or guided your hand with my hand. There are always options to work within your comfort level. We’d explore your vulva to find just exactly what feels good to you. I call this pleasure mapping. You’d learn an immense amount about your vulva and in the process you’d also develop skills and confidence to communicate your touch desires to your partner. You could even bring your partner with you to a session and have them learn how to touch you the way you liked. What a concept!

PLEASE NOTE! - I don’t have sexual intercourse with my clients nor do I engage in kissing or oral sex. I just use my hands and I wear gloves when touching your genitals or anus.

I work with men, women and couples of any sexual orientation. If you don’t feel comfortable being touched by a man, I do partner with some wonderful women associates who do similar work.

I’m also happy to "share notes" with your counselor or therapist if you wish. Otherwise, your work with me is completely confidential.

Ok I’ve been as explicit as possible and given a couple of examples. Every situation is different depending on what you want to learn and how you want to learn it. Sex is incredibly complex and what you can learn is only limited by your imagination and willingness.

People who are interested in doing Touch Centred Sex Education and Therpy usually have lots of questions to ask before they starting the process. I offer a 45 minute to 1 hour long phone or in person session where you can get more information. This session is just talking and costs $50.

Please see this link for fees for Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy.

It’s helpful, when you contact me, if you can be as clear as you can be about what your goals are. You can contact me at 604-618-3381 or info@massagebyki.com.

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