This page has in depth information about tantric massage for men from a man.

If you are a man looking for a tantric massage from a woman I can recommend my lovely friend Casey. Contact her at 604-644-6689 or touchedbythesea(at)hotmail.com

If you wish to make an appointment for a tantric massage with me, Ki Bournes, pictured here, please call me at 604-618-3381 or send me an email.

I also offer a free, no obligation consultation about tantric massage, just contact me.

I encourage you to read this page and a more general overview on tantra and tantric massage.

Ok, so on to the information. Most men considering having a tantric massage have a lot of questions.

What kind of men come for a tantric massage with me? Pretty much any man who wants a male to male massage. I have seen adult men who are in their early 20's to their late 80's; men of all sexual orientations, gay, straight, bi, and bi-curious; men of all shapes and sizes; men who are experienced in having sensual erotic massage and men who are first timers.

Why do men seek out tantra massage? While each man has his own reasons, there are common themes which I've noticed over my years of sharing this work with hundreds of men. I speak also from my own experience in receiving many tantric massages. Here they are:

Enjoyment, Pleasure, and Relaxation

A tantric massage is a full body sensual massage and an erotic massage with a "happy ending". It's just nice to be free of all constraints and have a full body, nude massage!

The pure enjoyment, pleasure and relaxation of a tantric massage are all worthy things. You can feel good about yourself in seeking them out.

There may be times in your life when you just aren't getting enough sensual and erotic touch. There's no shame and no harm in seeing a professional to get your needs met, in fact it's healthy to do so.

I enjoy my work, I'm an expert, and I take pride in providing an exquisite erotic service that just isn't commonly available.

Sexual Healing and Empowerment with Tantric Massage

I believe that the prevailing cultures in our world are sex-negative, pleasure-negative and body-negative. Every man has experienced this to some degree.

Perhaps it was the nasty priest that told you that masturbation was sinful or parents that shamed you for innocently touching yourself.

Mass media bombards us with unrealistic sexual images and myths which lead to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity about our bodies and our capacities as lovers.

Many men have been sexually abused as children. Some statistics claim that it is as high as 1 in 6 men.

So I believe that all men are survivors of sexual trauma to some degree. We cope, yet our sexuality is burdened with a measure of fear and shame which limits our capacity for pleasure.

A tantric massage can help liberate you from that shame and anxiety.

How? By having a safe non-judgmental space where all your feelings are welcome. In knowing that you don't have to rush and you don't have to perform. Through hearing affirming words about your body and pleasure. In receiving touch that feels incredibly satisfying. These simple things are healing and empowering on the deepest levels.

One client told me that a 3 hour tantric massage session was like 3 years of talk therapy.

I'm not dismissing the power of talk therapy. In fact tantra massage can be an extremely powerful complement to talk therapy. I myself often use tantra massage in my other work Touch Centred Sex Education and Therapy.

There is no substitute for the healing power of touch!

Learning to Generate More Sexual Energy and Feel More Pleasure

I believe that our culture is seriously lacking in meaningful pleasure-based sex education.

We men learn bad sexual habits as teenagers and adults that keep us from experiencing the fullness and richness of our sexual energy and limit our capacity to deeply connect with ourselves and our partners. Or worse, our habits deepen into serious problems like premature or delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and prostate cancer.

Our sexual energy is like a spaceship which could transport us to beautiful and fascinating worlds where we could discover new things and bring back incredible treasures; but most of us use this precious vehicle to go down the street to pick up a donut.

Tantric massage can be a way to experientially learn to master your sexual energy!

With gentle and compassionate coaching from me while you receive a tantric massage, you can learn to feel more pleasure and raise your sexual energy to new heights where you can enjoy multiple, prolonged, full body, ecstatic orgasms and peaceful oceans of sexual bliss. You can learn to have a deep communion with yourself and another.

You can discover how your sexual energy can become a vehicle for personal growth and transformation. This is tantra in it's essence.

Practicing the Art of Receiving Pleasure

Receiving erotic pleasure without having to perform or please someone else is a completely foreign concept for many men.

"What? I can have what I want based on what I truly desire and not what I think it is that you desire?"

The answer is, "Yes!" But it's not necessarily easy if you've never done it before. Learning to receive can be challenging. It's not a passive activity.

First, you may have to deal with a lack of worthiness. Then you have to connect with yourself, and your body sensations especially, to know what you desire. Then you have to somehow convey that to me so I can give it to you. Or you have to surrender to what I am giving you and let me know if it feels good or not.

The "art" is being able to do all of this without getting all caught up in your mind and disconnected from the feelings and sensations in your body.

These are subtle embodied skills that can be learned. Again I'm an expert at teaching them and supporting you gently through each step. At first the skills may be clunky and difficult but with practice they become effortless.

Trust me. Your erotic life becomes so much more satisfying when you know what you want and how to receive it!

Exploring Your Bi-curious Nature

I have a lot of experience giving tantra massage to bi-curious men and men who have never been touched erotically by another man before. I believe it's good to explore this aspect of oneself. Getting a tantric massage from a man is wonderful.

My friendly and confident manner helps men to get over any initial nervousness. You can rest assured that your experience will be completely safe and that you will only get the touch that you want.

Anal and Prostate Tantric Massage

Ahhh the anal frontier. There is so much pleasure and healing to be found there. There is nothing quite like the deep powerful orgasms that can be had when prostate massage and anal massage is combined with cock massage.

But it has to be done with care and sensitivity. Again I'm an expert in this area. I even teach classes in anal and prostate massage. Your enjoyment and safety are my primary concerns.

The massage is done slowly allowing the anus to relax and open gently. We'll be in good communication. I use lots of lube and I always wear medical examination gloves for your protection and mine. The pleasure and relaxation easily becomes an incredible full body experience.

Connecting Spirit and Sex

You may appreciate a spiritual quality that I can bring to your tantric massage at your request. I don't force this on anyone, it's strictly optional.

If you wish, I can create a sacred atmosphere for your tantric massage by doing simple spiritual things like offering blessings and prayer or by invoking any spiritual guides or energies that you feel connected to.

I can also help you to bring your sacred sexual energy through your whole body, especially your heart, to help you feel a greater love for yourself and all beings.

Clients often report potent feelings of being centred, whole, and peacefully connected to Everything through their body in the present moment.

Other Reasons

You can see how a tantric massage is very versatile. I invite you to explore you own reasons for choosing to receive a tantric massage. Please share them with me so I can tailor your session to your own unique needs and desires.

Call 604-618-3381 or email me to schedule your session or for a free no-obligation consultation. To find out details about me and my service (price, location, hours, etc.) please see my Helpful Information Page.

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