Before reading this, I encourage you to read the overview on tantric massage.

Why do men seek out tantric massage?

While each man has his own reasons there are definitely certain themes which I have been witness to over my years of sharing this work with hundreds of men. I speak also from my own experience in receiving tantric massage. The following themes are not separate unto themselves, they weave into each other.

Sexual Healing

1 in 6 men have been sexually abused as children. I believe that every single man has been sexually wounded to some degree. Perhaps it was the priest that told you that masturbation was sinful, or parents that punished you for innocently touching yourself because it felt good, or an insensitive lover that ridiculed you. Our mass media, which uses sex to sell everything, also makes us feel inadequate about our bodies and our capacities as lovers. No we aren't all James Bond.

So we are all survivors of sexual trauma on some level. We cope, yet for most of us our sexuality is burdened with fear, guilt and shame. A tantric massage can help liberate you.

One client told me that a 3 hour session was like 3 years of talk therapy. I'm not at all dismissing the power of other therapies. In fact tantric massage can be an extemely powerful complement to other forms of therapy.

Lasting Longer and Feeling More Erotic Pleasure

We learn bad habits as teenagers and adults, masturbating silently and furtively in our rooms hoping not to get caught, or masturbating watching porn while completely disconnected from our bodies. These and other reasons can create a pattern within us where ejaculation occurs when only a small amount of sexual energy and pleasure has been enjoyed.

Our sexual energy is like a spaceship which can transport us to beautiful and interesting new worlds where we can bring back incredible treasures; but most of us use our spaceship to go down the street to pick up a loaf of white bread.

Tantric massage can help you master your spaceship! You can have multiple, prolonged, full body, ecstatic experiences during a tantric massage. You'll learn to tune into very subtle sensations of pleasure and raise the erotic energy in your body to levels you may never have known before.

As an added bonus the techniques you will learn will help you be a better lover with yourself and with others.

The Joy of Receiving

To receive erotic touch free of the worries of "performing" or meeting someone else's expectations is something many men have never experienced before.

Learning to receive can be challenging. We have to face our lack of worthiness and our guilt and shame. We have to learn to surrender. The reward is great though, our capacity for intimacy and pleasure expands.

Tantric massage is a great practice in receiving because the touch is always one-way, from me to you. I expect nothing from you other than to breathe and be in your body, which I will help you to do with gentle coaching.

A Tantric Massage is equally pleasurable with a hard cock or a soft cock, with ejaculation or without ejaculation. Living your erotic energy free from all of these "goals" is a good habit to develop.

Exploring New Territory

Its sad but true that our culture shoves us into little boxes and this is especially true around our sexuality. Tantric massage is a very safe way to explore outside the box.

Many men come to see me because they have never been touched erotically by another man. They would like to try it in a safe way where they can be completely in control of the situation and where their boundaries will be respected. In fact, I help men identify where their boundaries are. Even just being able to talk about these things openly is very healing.

Other men would like to explore touch and massage in areas they haven't received touch before, especially the anus and the prostate. Again I do this slowly, safely, consciously and with respect for boundaries.

Connecting Spirit and Sex

Many men appreciate the ritual quality that I bring to my tantric massage sessions. I don't force my version of spirituality on anyone but I often do simple spiritual things, like speaking affirmations, that help bring the session into a sacred space.

I also teach my clients how to circulate sexual energy through their whole body especially their heart where it can open them to a greater love for themselves and all beings and a create the tangible feeling of being centred, whole, and connected to God, Goddess, Great Spirit, the Universe, etc...

Other Reasons

I invite you to explore you own reasons for choosing to receive a tantric massage and please let me know what they are at the start of your session.

Call 604-618-3381 to schedule your session. Outcalls to your residence or hotel are also available.

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