Tantric Massage For Women

Before reading this, I invite you to read the overview on tantric massage.

Why do women seek tantric massage?

Each woman has her own reasons but there are definitely themes which I have been witness to over my years of sharing this work with many different women and listening to their stories. The following themes are not separate unto themselves, they weave into each other.

Sexual Healing

1 in 3 women are sexually abused as a child. It's a cultural epidemic that is still not openly discussed. Even more women are raped sometime in their lives or have had sex forced upon them by an insensitive partner. Those few women who have been spared these injustices still have to endure other forms of sexual trauma. Caregivers that punished them for innocently touching themselves as children. Church authorities who proclaim sexual pleasure an evil sin. Invasive harsh medical examinations. Surgical wounds from "modern" childbirth practices. Mass media which creates an unobtainable standard of beauty which leads women to hate their own bodies. A culture which labels women who dare to enjoy sex as sluts. The list goes on and on.

All women in our society are survivors of sexual trauma to some degree. I truly marvel at the power of woman's spirit that so many of them heal these wounds and have a fulfilling sex and intimate life.

Tantric massage can definitely help this healing process. A crucial piece is boundaries. I'll support you in clarifying what touch you are comfortable with and that's the touch you will receive. I especially ask permission before touching any intimate areas of your body. Tantric massage is experienced by many women as a "reclaiming" of their body as their own.

Tantric massage leads to freedom. Freedom to celebrate your body, sexuality and desires. Freedom from fear, guilt and shame. Freedom to breathe and feel deeply. Freedom to be fully present in the Now with ecstatic joy.

Tantric massage can be particularly powerful as a complement to other forms of therapy.

Feeling More Pleasure and Orgasmic Energy

Sexual trauma is actually stored in the tissues of the body particularly around and inside the vulva. It is often referred to as body armouring and has physical, mental and emotional components. This armouring actually restricts the flow of orgasmic energy making orgasms difficult or only satisfying on a surface level.

The tantric practices, especially conscious breathing, and the massage can release this armouring to allow more erotic energy to flow. You'll learn to tune into very subtle sensations of pleasure and raise the sexual energy in your body to levels you may not have known before. Each session unfolds in its own unique and mysterious way. Some women go into a deep embodied trance. Others have powerful cathartic emotional releases. And some women have multiple and prolonged, full body, orgasms. No two experiences are alike. It's mysterious and beautiful.

Receiving Pleasure On Your Terms

Many women have never experienced erotic touch from another person, especially a man, free from the worry of demands for something "more sexual" in return. That's the space that I create when I am giving a tantric massage. It allows you to drop deeply into your own body.

From this place of being so completely present to your body you can ask for and receive exactly the touch you desire.

This massage is free from the "goal" of having an orgasm too. You are free to surrender to the sensations in your body, without the worries of meeting someone else's expectations allowing your fullest, orgasmic, loving self to emerge.

Exploring New Territory, Creating a Pleasure Map

The vulva is truly an amazing place. With 80,000 nerve endings in a very small area (by the way men only have 60,000) even small shifts in the location and type of touch can make huge differences in sensations.

Often women choose to go on a very conscious exploration of themselves with me as their assistant. I can give feedback as to exactly where I am touching them and they can relate what they are feeling. New places where it feels really good to be touched can be discovered. Also this mapping can be a very effective way to uncover those places of body armouring which can then be released if approached very consciously.

Many women like to explore being touched and massaged around and inside the anus. Again this is all done slowly, with respect of boundaries (which are allowed to change in any moment) and good communication.

Working With Another Woman

Given the immensity of sexual wounding that most women have endured, much of it at the hands of men, it's no surprise that some women prefer receiving a tantric massage from another woman or having another woman present along with myself. If this speaks to you, you have the option of working with Sophie, or with Sophie and I together. We joyfully create Sacred space where deep sexual healing happens.

Sophie is also an art therapist who specializes in working with women. For more information about her please visit www.GoddessTouch.org.

If you would like to learn more about tantric massage or make an appointment please call me at 604-618-3381.

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